“If you have good thoughts they will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely”
How do you lead happy, healthy and balanced life?
There is only so much we can do to make ourselves beautiful. We can put nice outfit on and nice make up on and new shoes. What if you had a bad day and you going on a date, yes you can smile and pretend you have a good time, but no clothes or make up are going to cover it up. And if you sitting down in front of a person intelligent enough to notice your face expressions, they will almost always likely to see or feel your sadness.
Life is not only about what you do for a living or what part of the world you live in. Life is a balance, a mix of different things that we should be able to pursue to seek the happiness. I always thought that if I work hard, have a full time job I will save enough money to travel or buy things. Lie. I was told that you have to work and pay your bills that’s what the life is about. That’s what everybody does. Lie. I was told that I must not complaint raising my kid alone while in a relationship because someone has to work and earn. Lie. I was laughed at when telling people my dreams of writing a book, working as journalism, having it all.
When I was 12 I knew I will become a journalism I loved writing and that’s all I ever knew. The time progress and my dreams fade away, I turned up 18 and left home, I knew I had to work in order to keep myself alive. I forgot about all my dreams and dream job. None of this matter anymore. I met people who told me you need a degree and you don’t have one. I met people who’s life was a spinning wheel 24/7 because life in London is expensive. I was doing the same and forgot all about the things I wanted to do.
Thankfully Our priorities change when we grow up, when things happen to us, when we become homeless, when we have our hearts broken, when we have not enough to eat, when we don’t have a support of our family members, when we realise all the friends suddenly gone, when we become parents, when we go through health issues, when we discover our true passion…
You get one life and one life only. I always thought what an amazing world what would be if everyone do what they love for living. I believe every single person has talent, has something he is good at. If you did that thing for a living, you would feel happy, fulfilled, you would get paid, and you could pursued other things at the same time, because when you happy, the rest just seems to fall into place easier and you discover there is more to life and more things that you potentially good at.
What an amazing world that would be…
Life is what we create, but what happens to us doesn’t depends on so much what we do, but how we react to things. I should have known to close my eyes and ears when people laughed, when I was told that’s impossible, when all the negativism of others was pouring into my life. I should have known that my reaction to all that, is creating my reality, I should have known that I would be so much ahead of others if I just focus for one minute and perhaps let those people go off my life. I should have known that life is not about having as many friends as possible, but having one that never says no when you want to come over.
I should have known…
Life is more than just work.
I don’t know how many people hate their job, but I can imagine a lot.
Work should not have a control over us, the thought of having to pay bills, mortgage should not be the first thing that comes to our mind when think work. But it doesn’t matter anyway if it does because there should be much more to it than that.
The day I have taken my first holidays, I discovered that I don’t want to go back, and that having that time off should really be much longer what I initially booked for. I think we went for 2 weeks then.
I came home and I couldn’t cope with the reality because for the first time in my life I felt alive. Since then I never looked back and travelling became my pass to freedom. I not only discovered my passion but also became a different person and looked at life from a different perspective. Perspective that I had when I was younger. I felt like my dream, the one that everyone were calling impossible, came true.
You get one life, so use it
Having people to understand why I love it so much is pretty hard. I have surrounded myself with those who I can share my stories with, not those who don’t want listen where I’ve been.
I can count on one hand how many friends I have, but I realised this is all I need. People who make time for you no matter what’s the time of the day is, that’s what matters, not the number.
Life is a balance of things. yes, work, but do not let work to take control of your life, find things that you enjoy, and do it, there always be a time and opportunity , if you carry on and don’t stop. Don’t do things you don’t wanna do, when something is not working go and find a different job, change a circle of friends, step away from those who don’t bring anything into your life, have time for yourself every single day. When you suddenly realise what’s important and make you happy, prioritise that over everything else.
For me having a daughter and celebrating her birthday every year became a moment of greatness. So every year for her birthday we go on a trip together. Not because of her birthday and she deserves a treat, but because having her changed not only my life but also me as a person, she is the one who changed course of my life, she is the one that always been there for me, she is the one that told me everything is gonna be ok,she was 3 years old when she said that, how could she know, but her words were more powerful that the reality of things ! she is the one who loves me for who I am, so every year we celebrate that , I celebrate her…she gave me more than I could ever imagined.
If I had to choose between work and going on that trip together, I would be able to drop my job at instant without a second thought.
That’s called priorities…
Have priorities in life, understand what’s important for yourself, understand that if right now everything else disappear, will that thing or that person, still going to be number one priority.
Nobody had to understand that, except you, nobody has to understand why would you drop you job to be with you daughter, you don’t explain to anyone what travelling means to you , they won’t understand anyway (unless they travel themselves), people who work full time because someone told them they have to get degree husband and house by the time they reach 25, won’t understand why you don’t want to work full time, because your priority is to have time for things you enjoy. Nobody understands that you need that time for yourself to listen to music, to write, to take a trip to have a well-balanced happy life
Everyone’s perception of balanced life is different
That’s why nobody has to understand yours
And that’s ok
And not everyone understands that we create our life with thoughts and actions
And that’s ok too
Everyone life’s is different, and nobody’s opinion or different perspective should have any effect on what you want to do, pursue and enjoy. They won’t understand anyway…
(UNLESS THEY TRIED IT FOR THEMSELVES)
Going back to the beginning.
Find time to listen to that song that makes you happy
Find time to have that coffee with your friend every week
Find time to meditate for a couple of minutes every day
Find time to give a hug and kiss to your loved ones
Find time to cook and feel creative of making something new
Find time to have time for yourself
Find time to take time off, go and explore and experience thats what makes you a person , not how much you earned this month
Life should be a mix of things we enjoy…
LIVE YOUR LIFE, DONT LET LIFE LIVE YOU
Actions lead to thoughts, thoughts leads to how we feel from the inside and look on the outside.
“If you have good thoughts they will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely”
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